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Open up to more rest, joy, ease, and play.
Let’s pour one out for the determined do-ers and overwhelmed overachievers.
You’ve been doing your best—and you’re freaking exhausted.
Life’s been good running around as the Mayor of Busytown for a while, right?
You’re cruising around picking up gold stars, doing more at work, doing it all for your family. Remember that day you brushed your dog’s teeth, scheduled the next quarter’s appointments, achieved inbox zero before everyone woke up and still had time to squeeze in a Peloton ride? There’s nothing you can’t do!
But… all of this doing isn’t really doing it for you anymore.
Maybe something’s just off, despite your best efforts, but you just don’t know what.
Maybe you DO know what’s off, but have no idea what to do about it.
Or maybe life served up a curveball amidst all this hustle—a job you didn’t get, a breakup you didn’t ask for, even a job you DID get!—and recalibrating to your new reality has your head spinning.
Whatever it is for you, there’s a good chance you can’t sit still (or let your brain sit still) because… who knows what’ll happen. What will you have to feel? Who even are you, underneath it all?
If the thought of slowing down freaks you out… you’re not alone.
Pausing might sound impossible when you’re acculturated to go go go. And the thought of making more space to just be might sound like ALL sorts of yuck. Shifting from always going and doing to becoming someone who makes space for ease and rest can be freaking difficult.
But a pause is necessary to start breaking out of the cycle of proving and hustling, to get off the stress roller coaster of never feeling like you’re enough.
After all, how long have you been clinging to the two mythical buckets of “work” and “life,” pouring yourself endlessly into both, feeling guilty and depleted while they both overflow? Even pursuing that elusive “balance” that would finally make everything okay is exhausting.
Whew. You are such a beautiful, caring, generous soul, and none of this is your fault. You didn’t create the mythology of productivity, and upholding it is just something you’ve learned to do really, really well.
The good news about learning, though? You can learn a different way to live.
You have the option to play, rest, and just be even when culture will have you believe this is not an option.
There is no panacea for forging habits that help you quit the hustle, but discovering what supports YOU is part of the beautiful journey away from the cult of busy, and into a life of more flow and ease.
Coaching helps you try out playing over proving, resting over running, slowing down instead of speeding up.
It’s a sacred (and fun!) place where you can learn to tether to yourself, trust yourself enough to set the boundaries you need, go for your passions and joy, honor your big ass feelings, and most importantly fuck all the shoulds that make you miserable.
(Can I get a hell yeah?)
You don’t have to turn into a meditating, green smoothie-drinking, Ekhart Tolle-quoting Zen master to embrace your own path of ease and flow. And (I know what you’re thinking!) you also don’t have to stop doing.
What you get to stop, though, is trying so damn hard all the time. Forcing things, struggling, pushing yourself to the point of exhaustion just to uphold a sense of identity or enoughness.
Instead, it’s an opportunity to listen to your heart, try on new (perhaps more fun?!) identities that suit you better, practice new behaviors, and welcome ease. It’s an opportunity to swim in the liminal space and to befriend the unknown—a place where magic and miracles happen.
And if your high-achiever self is sweating just reading that, well, that’s why you won’t be doing it alone.
Thanks to Suset’s guidance and support I have learned how to better identify the true source of stress and discomfort in my environment, to become more attuned to how it impacts my emotional state, and to stay more positive while navigating through life’s ups and downs.
Suset has helped me develop practical and actionable tools that allow me to both practice self-love and show more compassion to those around me. I’ve been able to release limiting beliefs about what I could be and began opening up to dreams that have been always there waiting for me to ‘wake up’ to them.
A little awareness starts with baby steps.
And a tiny step begets another tiny step, which → big accomplishment. (Thanks, dopamine!)
Sure, thoughts are necessary, but our brains are sneaky little cuties that are very committed to lots of old stories that no longer serve us.
Actions, though, help get our brains on board for new, gorgeous ways of being, and the small steps you take in coaching help build the muscle.
At first, maybe you practice dropping the ball.
Choosing to not do in a world that consistently tells us we cannot drop a single ball is not only revolutionary, it’s necessary. When you practice letting things fall through the cracks, you see how you live to tell the tale… and find some ease you didn’t realize was possible.
Maybe you microdose on rest—rest for the sheer joy of doing nothing.
If you were constantly told you couldn’t and shouldn’t rest, lying in bed for an entire day doesn’t exactly feel safe. But with short pauses, you can experience that when you rest, nothing terrible happens. You get better at weaving small doses into daily activities, and then find that liberation, joy, freedom, creativity, and ease comes when you give yourself space to be.
Maybe you play. (Actually, not maybe—definitely.)
Play is a portal to flow, the space where we dance with active ease. And in this state, we are whole and complete no matter what we do. So you’ll do something fun, without needing to earn the right to do it, to rationalize it. Do something that’s good for your heart, with no end goal, that makes you feel alive and tastes of pure freedom.
And eventually, these baby steps don’t seem so baby anymore.
Because constantly moving in the direction of what you DO want opens up room for big shifts, the juicy stuff like:
SETTING BOUNDARIES (THAT ACTUALLY ACCENTUATE THE DELICIOUSNESS OF LIFE!)
Boundaries are a love note to SELF. Sharing and upholding them sends a direct message to your soul that you are your fiercest protector and cheerleader.
MAKING DECISIONS WITHOUT EXPLANATION OR JUSTIFICATION
Take a nap, sign up for the pie baking class, turn down that invitation with grace and no guilt. Welcome to FLOW, leading from the heart rather than from what you think is expected of you.
MOVING TOWARDS NOURISHING CHOICES INSTEAD OF NUMBING ONES, FOR MORE JOY AND WAY LESS ENERGY-ZAPPING
Learning how to pick up on the cues of your body and heart is life-changing. There is so much presence and self-connection when you finally listen to (and act on!) what your heart is screaming to do.
A Little Awareness
1:1 COACHING FOR MORE EASE AND FLOW
Together, we’ll practice getting curious, being in the moment, and tethering to your SELF, no matter what’s going on in the magical and messy world out there.
While a lot of the work we do takes place in the realm of the stories our mind creates, there’s a second realm we also work on—the body, which tends to hold and act on all the patterns our brain creates for us. And beating inside your body is your wise, wise heart.
This is why we take a mind-body, body-mind approach that brings together rest, play, being, and yes, doing.
Eight 45-minute online coaching sessions
I know that you want to get unstuck quickly or to get through a challenging time, like… tomorrow. But it took many years to absorb all of those cultural messages around achievement, and many years for your thoughts and habits to form. With time, love, and compassion, we’ll unshame the things you want to change and alchemize them into your partners for a more ease-ful life.
Funwork between sessions to keep our work alive.
These activities are fully you-generated, made up and ungraded. Low-stakes play helps keep you movin’ and groovin’ (aka research shows that when actions feel doable, you’re more likely to take them on and sustain your progress!).
Access to me between sessions by email and personalized Loom videos
I’m with you for the insights and the celebrations and the WTFs along the way. You’re learning a new way of being, and I’m here to help you stay in it and actively pursue the changes your heart is calling out for. With lots of compassion and support, I’ll help you keep wiggling those old habits and thoughts loose.
And one more thing: there’s no “signature framework” here that will whoosh you from stressed out to blissful in just 10 simple steps (because does that really sound like how life or your brain actually work?).
Instead—we don’t follow a one-size-fits-all framework, but there is still structure.
We don’t set do-or-die goals, but there is intention.
We don’t chase an all-out transformation, but we do build momentum.
That is the honest, beautiful truth about our work together, and I can’t wait to support you in this journey.
Investment: $1,200
Ready? Curious? I’m here for you. Get in touch using the button below and I’ll be happy to set up a free introductory call.
It has been a beautiful awakening to rediscover myself and what I’m truly passionate about.
Working with Suset has opened my eyes and reignited passions I had buried for so long. I have uncovered some of my fears and not allowed them to stop me. I’m super excited to evolve in a journey where I’m creating my joy, resuming my activism, relationships, and creative side. I feel unleashed and empowered again, standing in not a Little but a LOT of good Awareness!
I’m Dr. Suset Laboy Pérez, your Certified Wayfinder Master Life Coach (but in my words? Empowermentor.)
Also a pie-baking, crystals-loving PhD with a passion for play
You may have heard it before: Rest is resistance. Rest is productive. Rest so you can do more.
I respect those ideas, and yet I’m here to offer you another twist: Rest, boundaries, and true ease don’t have to be a means to get anywhere. They’re a means to be.
And let me tell you, once upon a time I was not on that wavelength. I could have been an Olympic medalist in jumping through productivity hoops, sailing through the Ivy League, working 70+ hours a week, finishing my PhD and getting certified as a yoga instructor and and and AND.
So if you too are an achiever and do-er who doesn’t feel safe to rest, I understand. Maybe rest even seems… wrong. After all, you could be busy helping someone else!
But I’m not just talking bubble baths and ricotta pancakes here. I love me a nap but I also love me fair wages, support networks, and inclusion and equity for all. And in my time coaching 200+ beautiful souls, I have seen how the things we want for ourselves are the things we want for the world—joy, peace, ease, alignment, freedom, liberation.
So know that as you practice self-care, you practice world-care. Any time you take small steps to renounce the structures that keep you and others exhausted, overworked, and undervalued, you are trickling change into the soul of the collective.
My hope is to help you find the nourishment to go forth and navigate this messy world, finding ease and alignment within and spreading ease and alignment outwards.
Questions?
I’m here for you.
Are you going to help me create a plan to find a new job/fix this problem/make this habit go away?!
If I had a nickel for every time someone recommends the book Atomic Habits, I would be able to afford at the very least an XL pizza from Domino’s (hello 90s kids). And I get it. The wellness and life design industry have sold us as much, telling us that the only pathway to joy and happiness is through new strategies, plans, and habits.
But as a coach (who’s been on this rodeo with hundreds of clients), I have to lovingly ask: Is it really that you need a plan? Is it really that you just need to figure out what to do next and get right back to it? Is it really burnout… or is it disconnection from SELF?
I suspect that transforming your relationship to what is next would also transform your relationship to what is now. When we work together, we get curious about other ways to make change, beyond the “just think harder!” problem-solving-mode that culture has ingrained in us.
You can’t habit your way out of something that is already within, that has been stuck within. That takes courage, resilience, wisdom—the kind you already possess, and can nourish and cultivate, and can learn to call forth.
So yeah, you’ll experience change. But it will be through taking aligned actions instead of smothering yourself in more force and struggle.
What is a typical session like?
Remember how I said “there’s no one-size-fits-all framework, but there is still structure”? Here’s where it comes in!
Typically, each session we set a clear focus for our time together, and start with a check-in + grounding exercise. Then as we zone in on that area of focus, we explore why it matters to you, poke (playfully! Curiously!) at the parts you may need to transform in that area, check in on how you feel afterward, and then set a game that you’ll play until we meet again. This flow helps rewire your brain over time and helps you get present to forward movement.
Why do we start with eight sessions?
It turns out that shifting your thoughts, habits, and actions takes some time and patience! (Who knew, right?) In my experience with 200+ clients, eight weekly-ish sessions is the minimum for sustained change. Science also tends to agree, as it usually takes between 21-40 days to change a habit, and longer to rewire the brain.
Clients often end up choosing to work together for six months to a year (or more), but I don’t ask or expect you to decide that upfront. Starting with eight sessions helps you make great progress!
I want to be into all of this stuff about ease and not doing so much but also… don’t I HAVE to do some things?! I can’t just sit around eating pancakes and watching Law and Order all day!
Well, good news—you really couldn’t, even if you tried! Human beings are born creators, and we tap into this source when we are in ease and play. Your inner wisdom would eventually cue you that you’re satisfied and ready to move on!
But pancakes aside, let me be clear— finding ease isn’t me promising that life will always be “easy.” It’s not about never having challenges or struggles. It’s not about never having shit hit the fan. It’s about your ability to maintain your inner steadiness and stay tethered to yourself even when shit hits the fan. Underneath all the muck of negative thoughts, patterns that no longer serve you, and all the “shoulds” out there is… ease.
And the same goes for doing. Doing is a completely normal, even enjoyable part of the human experience! We’re not here to sit in a corner and do nothing all day but nor are we here to DO to prove our worth, DO to punish ourselves, DO to keep ourselves so busy as a distraction from something deeper. I’ll help you do more of what gives you energy and less of what zaps it.
What are your credentials?
I believe that being a coach is an incredible responsibility that comes with not only commitment but a practiced skillset. I’m a Certified Wayfinder Master Life Coach trained by Martha Beck, have trained in Positive Neuroplasticity with Dr. Rick Hanson, and I also draw plenty of inspiration from my training as a 200 hour Registered Yoga Teacher. Currently, I’m also pursuing my Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certificate, so you can trust that our work together is trauma-informed.
I also hold a Ph.D. in the social sciences and have spent my entire life working and studying people, their behaviors and cultural patterns as a social scientist. I’ve spent many years deep in studies of positive neuroplasticity and the process of rewiring our brains to live more peaceful and ease-full lives, and I love bringing all of this insight to our work together.
Do you offer payment plans?
But of course. When we decide to work together, you can pay upfront or in three installments across our time together. I’m also occasionally able to work out different arrangements on a case-by-case basis, so please let me know in our initial chat if this is something we should discuss.
Where are you located?
I live and work from New York City and Mallorca, but thanks to the magic of Zoom, we can work together wherever you are! International clients are most welcome.
